Over the years, I have had more than one contact with my mother-in-law that has precipitated my decision to not have a relationship with her.
I’m not happy with not being around her.
I genuinely thought I could build a relationship with, even if just for the sake of my husband. He doesn’t seem to see what is happening. He has no idea how she is around me, and if he does, he ignores it. She is always harassing me about something I am doing wrong. I know that she comes from a family that has money. I understand that she feels the cost of something tells you how good it is. I come from a family that lives a normal life. We buy what we can afford. I don’t think my dad ever used a credit card. He always used cash everywhere we went. My husband and I have decided to live this way. My mother-in-law found out about this and she couldn’t understand. She thought I was holding my husband back. She wanted me to hire a maid because she didn’t think my home was clean enough. She gave me all the recipes their cook had for her son. Then she started about the HVAC system. She didn’t think our air quality was good enough. She thought the temperature in the house was uneven. She even did the old white glove test on my furniture and told me how dusty it was. She said it was from poor HVAC and I needed to get a good ductless HVAC system for the house so her ‘poor baby’ didn’t need to continue to suffer from his allergies.